THE BEAUTY OF THE NEXT PHASE OF LIFE
THE BEAUTY OF THE NEXT PHASE OF LIFE
Yes,
my friends, this is the next phase of our lives, when we have either crossed or
are approaching the threshold of 50 years of age. A lot of confusion,
perplexity, and a whirlpool of complicated ideas that are pulling us deep into
a new world – a world of aspirations, new hopes, new desires as they were left
unfulfilled, unnoticed, and ignored while anchoring families, supporting
relationships, taking care of the children’s education, their career,
maintaining financial stability and what not! Half a century of our
lives has passed, and we never took the time to reflect on our identities,
priorities, and happiness.
We
had been running from pillar to post to see if all were satisfied with
our services, if we had accomplished our assigned tasks to the best of our
potential, if we had not hurt anyone’s feelings; if we had; we felt
apologetic and pleaded in front of others at times and assured them that it
won’t be repeated. Most of our life has vanished in the blink of an eye, and
something has been left that keeps tormenting, screaming, shrinking in our
heart of hearts- THE INNER VOICE OF OUR SOUL. The question that wriggles us
time and again is “Where do we stand in this whole process? Where is our
identity? What have we done to ourselves, our dreams, and our longings-
strangulated them?”
When
the children have settled to some extent or are on the way to their
destination, our health issues have started obstructing our path- our vision is
getting weaker, and so poor that images in the phone are getting blurred.
Sometimes, we become the victim of mockery by our children or family members –
What an ironic situation!!!
The
density of the bones has perhaps deteriorated, as per the pathological lab
reports. The introduction of so many medicines and the hormonal imbalances due
to menopause are also taking their toll. The frustration, the
mood swings, and the unexpressed, pent-up feelings are making our lives a real
hell.
Where
is the beauty of this age? - You must be thinking. Let me explain it to you.
This is the time when a clarion call has awakened our hearts to take
the right measures at the right time before it is too late. This is the need of
the hour to be on our toes to transform the impossibilities into possibilities.
Let’s work on our health by taking the required medication and introduce a set
of physical exercises in our daily routine. Learning new skills such as
swimming, technology, driving a car or a bike, at this age, is icing on the
cake as it gives a feeling of accomplishment, fulfilment, and enrichment;
believe me. Don’t look for acknowledgment or approval from others. Come
on, we have done a lot for others; no need to chase perfection anymore. Now it
is time to listen to our inner voice that is screaming out loud to do something
for ourselves. Go out to social gatherings with your friends. Enjoy the company
of your friends, share peals of laughter, dance together; it doesn’t matter if
you are not aware of the moves and twists of dance movements. Make reels if you
are fond of; let people laugh and comment on your reels- they are not
acquainted with your mental health journey. Don’t pay heed to the people’s remarks
anymore, as they were not standing by you in your turbulent times. People need
to have something to gossip about, so let them collect some material for their
idle gossip, but you make your lives productive by pursuing your hobbies, which
you have always avoided on the pretext of household chores or other
responsibilities. Believe me, these works will never end, but life is on the
verge of its last stage. These moments are to be made productive by
learning new skills, making our physical and mental health better, by reading
more books (if you are interested), by doing some charity (feeding the poor or
showering your love on animals) by practising pranayama and meditation on
regular basis as it lays the foundation of peace, serenity and calmness in our
lives.
Hence,
stay healthy, stay blessed, and enjoy the second-most beautiful phase of your
life. May Lord Krishna bless us all with an abundance of happiness, love, and
laughter!!!
Alka
Nijhawan
Soooooo good and soooo inspiring, totally agreed with all the points
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing this beautiful content
Thank you so much ma'am for your inspiring words.
DeleteThe next phase of life may seem overwhelming but guess what? That's what life is about!
ReplyDeleteThank you for this beautiful blog Alka ma'am. May God Bless You and keep you in good health ✨
Thank you 💕dear
DeleteVery true
ReplyDeleteThanks 🌹🌹
DeleteI have come across women much younger than me but sadly with no vision or zest for the life and have had the pleasure of meeting women older than me and yet so full of life ! If we keep on postponing things that bring us joy until we have fulfilled all our duties we will have no life left in us when we come to that. Let no one take you for granted not even your children. Women just need to understand how important it is to love themselves and nourish their mind, body and soul.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely correct, ma'am. Thanks for your valuable words.
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